Is it suspicious or am I just reading into it?

I have always liked rough sex. Pulling hair, bitting, hitting, thrown down and just had. I used to have to beg for it, but my husband wouldn’t do it because he didn’t want to hurt me.

My husband is not home. He is in another country. Everything was great in December when he came home for a short visit, but we fought in May and he filed for divorce. His reasons were he felt I was never gonna work or go to school, which we had decided together I would stay home and take care of our kids and I was actually looking into schools, and he felt like we weren’t a couple (like we didn’t make time for us). He came home in June for a bit but it was bad because all we did was fight about the divorce. I didn’t want the divorce and felt it was out of the blue. I spent my time trying to change his mind and he actually was wavering a lot. I suspect it was the distance that kind of made the divorce come about because it made any small bad thing seem ten times worse and the good things ten times smaller. In July I went where he is and we were great. That visit is actually why he is planning to cancel the divorce. He will be here in November, but it will be a short visit. Then near the end of December we will go where he is for the rest of the time he is there. We realized we need to communicate more and have some one on one time. You know we need to be a couple and not just parents. Also I am currently in college and have a career goal in mind.

Well very recently he has asked if we could be rougher in the bedroom and do all the things I used to practically have to beg for. It has just brought me up a little short because it is a complete turn around from how it was before. So is that a little suspicious or am I just reading too much into it?

I gave the info on my marriage because it is relevant to the current situation and the question I was asking.

Your views on this will be greatly appreciated. Thank y’all!