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Hi everyone! I went back to work on Monday and it was definitely hard. I thought as the week went on it would get easier but it has actually become harder and harder each day. I’m only on day four of being away from my little boy and I am so sad! I am so fortunate because my mom and stepdad are taking care of him everyday so I have so much comfort knowing he is in such good hands. But when I pick him up at the end of the day and get home, he is so excited to see me and “talk” to me and it breaks my heart each morning leaving him again. I know this is just part of life and it will get easier as I get back into the routine of working again but I just didn’t think it would be THIS hard. Anyone else feeling this way?

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I am very blessed to be a sahm right now. I honestly couldn’t imagine being away from my daughter for more than a few hours. I had a 3&1/2 hour hair app. and my mom watched her during that time and I kept texting and calling to check on her. I would like to think that it will get easier with time for you super mommas that are going back to work. Good luck to all!

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I don’t mind being at work because I at least have time with other adults but I am actually going down to working four days a week because I can’t handle how much time has been taken away. My little guy is on a routine and once 6 hits, he knows it’s time to eat and bath is at 7. And then bed. Sometimes I have to start it sooner because he is so cranky. All in all, I see him when he wakes up for his feeding and maybe 2 hours after work. I have broken down 3 times and it hasn’t been a month yet.

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YES! I love my job and I am excited to be back but I miss my girl so much! I don't feel like I get near the amount of time I want with her when I get home before she goes to bed.

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I went back to work 3 weeks ago and honestly this last week it finally got easier ! The first 2 weeks I was so so sad. Unfortunately we had to put him in daycare due to our families all working still but it’s right in front of my job so I get to nurse and see him on my lunch break ! Monday’s are always the worst because I know there’s the entire week of barely getting quality time with my baby! But don’t worry I promise it does get easier day by day ! However the minute we are in a position for me to stay at home I’ll be running to the door 😂 just remember you aren’t alone and so many of us have no choice but to work !

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I initially went back to work after 14wks with my first baby. It was so hard at first, it got easier but there were good days and bad days. More bad days than I could handle and I quit to be a stay at home mom after 6 months. We had to use daycare and we just realized it wasn’t for us and we’d figure out how to make do on one income. Now another baby as of early July and I couldn’t ever imagine that heartache again. You are so fortunate though to have family that you trust and love your baby to watch while you’re at work!!! If I had that I’d never would have quit my job!

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Below is an article that was sent to me before I went on maternity leave. It made me feel better about being a working mom. I go back on Monday 😞
How The Children Of Working Moms Feel About Them Now
Kate Ashford Contributor, Personal Finance
https://www.forbes.com/sites/kateashford/2015/06/30/working-mother/?utm_source=FACEBOOK&utm_medium=social&utm_term=Malorie%2F#9efe59326dfe
Working mothers are experiencing something of a heyday right now. One recent study from Harvard found that daughters who had working mothers grew up to accomplish more at work, earn more money and climb higher on the corporate ladder than the daughters of stay-at-home moms.
Not only that, but the sons of working mothers pitch in more at home, clocking almost twice as many hours on family and child care as men with stay-at-home moms. (Their spouses thank you, working moms.)
Another study last year found that the children of low-income families fared better in kindergarten if their moms went back to work when they were babies.
And this recent study found that social acceptance of working moms continues to climb, with Millennials significantly more accepting than older generations. “Compared to their predecessors, 12th graders in the 2010s were more likely to support equal roles for men and women,” the report reads. “In the 2010s, 70% of 12th graders believed working mothers could develop equally warm relationships with their children, compared to 53% in the 1970s.”
Given that other research has found that working moms cry once a week due to the stress of having it all, this seems like good news. But does all the data translate into how people really feel about having had working mothers? When asked how their working moms affected their lives as adults, people had the following things to say:
“I absolutely believe I’m more ambitious and successful because my mother worked. My mom was an HR exec at McDonald’s Corp and since my parents were divorced, a single mother. We moved every two to three years during elementary and middle school due to her promotions and relocations. As a result, I am extremely adaptable. Granted, there were sacrifices. My mom was never a PTA mom. I learned things later than my peers. But I wouldn’t have traded how my mom raised my brother and me.” – Kailei Carr, 39, Atlanta
“Watching my mother working as an adolescent was incredibly inspiring. I saw her put herself through a Masters and PhD program, all while maintaining a full time job and working as a single mother. She taught me how to be dedicated, to have a passion for my own personal education, and how to communicate well with others in and out of the work place. I am more successful because I saw my mother work.” –Blaire Knight-Graves, 25, Chicago
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“I definitely grew up with a work ethic, whether outside or inside the home. My mother emphasized staying productive and orderly. I’d say it contributed to my view on gender roles, from the perspective of ‘Everyone pitches in to get the job done,’ whatever the job may be. So I own a business, I direct a nonprofit, and I still have to clean the toilets on Saturdays before I get to go out and play.” –Christian Muntean, 41, Anchorage, AK
“I watched my mom earn her Master’s Degree while raising three kids pretty much solo. And when I ask her how she did it, she simply says, ‘You just do what you have to do.’ So even in my craziness days on my way to being an entrepreneur, I kept working, learning and pushing through.” –Cheryl Laughlin, 44, Lodi, CA
“My working mom inspired me to be my own boss, which has been the greatest achievement in my career. Because she started her own business and was self-employed the entire time she was raising me, I think this put the idea in my head that I could do the same thing.” –Michelle Garrett, 43, Columbus, OH
“Watching my mother work each day, especially as a single mother, made me more appreciative of what she did, not only while I was growing up, but also when I became an adult. Hearing how she often takes criticism and setbacks in stride, especially when she has done her very best, raises my respect for her to another level. I often ask myself if I could endure some of what she went through. Her dedication and persistence has made me a stronger advocate for women’s rights in the workforce to support working mothers.” –Philip Blackett, 30, Boston
“My mother worked three jobs while I was growing up. In my teens she started her own business. I have had a few businesses now myself. She gave me the drive, the determination, the ambition and the gumption to reach for my goals.” –Trisha Trixie, 45, Centennial, CO
“My mother began working full time soon after I was born, but she worked nights and weekends. Her working taught me accountability for my own schoolwork, and accountability for the tasks I was assigned to do while she was gone. It made me very independent and self-reliant. I also learned a lot of things from my dad that I probably would not have learned had my mother been home at night, such as working on cars.” –Emmy Gengler, 52
“My mother worked outside the home in C-level positions for as long as I can remember. I learned so much from watching her as a child. She drug my younger brother and me to many after-hours work events. I learned her incredible work ethic, business savviness, and most importantly, to always do the right thing. I was taught that men and women are equal and to not use being a woman as an excuse. I hope and pray I am teaching my daughter the same things my mom taught me.” –Jo Trizila, 44, Dallas
“As a female who studied physics and now works in a male-dominated field (aerospace/engineering), I think the fact that my mom also studied and worked in a male-dominated field (computer programming) somewhat normalized the abnormality of it for me. I was not only taught that I could do whatever I wanted as a career, even if I was a minority in the field, but shown it on a daily basis. I grew up knowing that I was capable of supporting myself and that having the ability was important. I inherited a strong conviction from my mom that women can and should choose their own career path and are just as mentally capable as men in all areas of life.” –Kathryn Handler, 25, Silver Spring, MD

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