Just Struggling

I am 21, my husband is 23. He has never had the highest sex drive but recently it just is getting really difficult. We are both overweight so I know that slows things down but we are trying for a baby and it just feels impossible right now. I am coming up on a year off birth control and as much as I want to just not worry about it and not track or test I know that we don't have sex enough for it to happen realistically. We are lucky if we get once a week. I try to spice it up as much as I can. We havent even been married a year yet. We have had this conversation a million times and I just am at a loss. I dont want to feel like we are only intimate to make a child. I'm just really struggling.