Social media and your life - opinions?

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My husband and I both have a Facebook and Google + account. We do not "live" our lives on them. A funny/interesting video here, a happy birthday to old friend, etc. Rarely is there a rant or a post about something actually going on in our lives. Our anniversary was 2 days ago. While I meant to post a time hop or wedding photo, I didn't get around to it, but I told him personally ILU  and how important he is,etc. My mom did post a picture, wished us happy anniversary, and tagged us. My questions are 
- am I in the right for being upset with her? It seemed very vain because she is notified of all the comments, likes, etc
- we are ttc, and i wanted to know has anyone put the lock down on grandparents posting Announcements, ultrasound pics, birth stats, or even first baby pics?

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No, I don't think you should be upset that your mom wished you a happy anniversary. That doesn't make any sense to me. It sounds like she just wanted to celebrate the news...?
& I'm asking that no pictures be shared of my son without my permission, yes.

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I wouldnt be mad at my mom wishing me a happy anniversary at all.. Itd be one thing if I just found out I was pregnant and she did but she knows better. Both our moms always post happy anniversary before we even wake up

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It seems odd to me that you would be upset with your mother for simply sharing a picture and wishing you a happy anniversary. Maybe I just don't get social media, but that sounds very kind to me. It's not as if her doing that in anyway prevented you from writing your own status. Besides It's not like others weren't already aware it was your anniversary.

If your relationship with her is otherwise good I'd say just let it go. If you're worried about her breaking big news I don't think there's anything wrong discussing with her privately that you'd like to be the one to share first.

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I don't really have an opinion  on the first part but for the second.

I specifically asked my mother to not put on fb that I'm pregnant.  If she makes a post and tags me, all my friends see it and then I'm robbed of the pleasure of telling them all personally. When I got engaged of course my mother was one of the 1st I told. I hadn't left her house 20 minutes and my phone starts blowing up all my friends and co-workers texting to ask if it's true. She stole my thunder.

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Mom mother was like that. I had nip that in the bud. She put "enjoy your vacation!!!!" on her Facebook to my husband and I the day we left. Now I work in insurance, and I know how people in less savory neighborhoods nearby work, and you NEVER post that you are leaving your home unoccupied. That is just a no-no. You can post about vacation when you return! Wishing you a happy anniversary is ok, but social media limits need to be discussed with parents.

As for anything baby related all of that is off limits on line. No pictures, no telling people we are pregnant (if they are important you can call them), no baby pic's ever (we would like to not have pictures of our child online). They can post that they have a new grandbaby AFTER my husband post him holding her if that is what he wishes.

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1- I would be very happy if my parents ever acknowledged our anniversary.

2- none of my family or friends know that I'm ttc. But when it does happen I will be the one to announce it.

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Thanks for all the input. I feel confident about our decision related to baby (when the time comes). I guess the issue with the anniversary was it felt like it was more For Her than for me - or it was from the position since I didn't do it and she felt it should be out there then she did.

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For a friends wedding this summer they had a public announcement at the ceremony not to post any photos on public media until they had a chance to do so themselves. It worked good. We have the same couple hundred friends and I follow them all on ig and everyone was respectful. Nobody posted anything until her last post said now you can post any pictures you took! Thank you for respecting our wishes to share our wedding day on social media before everyone else.

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I don't have much to say about the anniversary thing but baby info. If you have not posted anything, they should not. I plan on putting this up:

And specifically telling the "Facebook addicts" in our families that they cannot post anything until we do. It's not fair to us.

Parents should be the first to announce their new arrivals. Not family or friends.

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The aniversary thing, meh whatever I just let my mom do what she wants. As for pregnancy birth stuff..... I have a complete lock down on it. There are several reasons for it but I don't post pregnancy pictures or "bump" pictures, no one was allowed to post that I was pregnant until I did. Now that I have announced family can post pregnancy memes, or generic pregnancy things but none about me specifically. There will be ZERO pictures of my child online. My mother knows this and knows how I can be so she respects my wishes.

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