Feel like I’m suffocating! 😭😡

I’m really starting to feel like I’m just an incubator for my own baby 😢 this is going to be my last ever time I do this so I want to cherish every single second. But I feel so pushed out of everything so far! Naturally my partners family are excited...we all are. My family are also very excited. His family are completely taking over, they’ve decided on the cot, the bedding, the feeding, EVERYTHING! My family keep asking me what do we want them to buy for the baby and I have to tell them thanks but no thanks because HIS family have taken over! So it’s pushing my family out as well 😔 the last straw for me was just a second ago....my partner knows I was so looking forward to us doing the nursery together, I have a perfect little room planned out in my head and when I told him my plans he was 100% on board, we were so excited.....but no! His family have once again decided on the nursery furniture! I finally snapped and he’s argued with me because he can’t see why this is so important. I feel like I’m drowning in his family’s over bearing ways. His mother has also got it in her head that my child will be spending all the time at her house!!! I can’t take anymore, seriously I’ve had enough. Sorry for my rant I just had to get it off my chest. I can’t speak to him about it because he turns it into an argument and doesn’t understand