What should I do?

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I have been best friends with a guy for 10 years. I also have a boyfriend whom I have been with for 5 years. We are all 19.
I guess to some that seems a little weird, but to me it just feels right. I have no romantic feelings towards my guy best friend. We have so much fun. However, with my boyfriend it’s different. I’m in love with him. I want to spend my life with him. 
I thought my guy best friend felt the same way and understood my love for my boyfriend. However my boyfriend hit me the other night when we were all having a campfire with some other friends. He took me into the forest to do it and didn’t think anyone saw. Well my guy best friend did and he attacked my boyfriend and told him to never come near me again or there would be a problem. He gave my boyfriend a black eye. I tried to explain that my boyfriend just has anger problems and he told me that’s no excuse and he will not allow anyone to harm me. He said anyone who loves me wouldn’t dream of touching me in anyway but to show me love. Then he tried to hold me and I pushed him away and told him he was inappropriate and wrong. 
My boyfriend told me if I do not end my friendship with him that he will leave me. He said my friend disrespected him and said that it’s obvious that he’s in love wit me. 
I told my girl friends about this and my my mom they are all begging me to leave my boyfriend. They even went as far as telling me to date my guy friend and said he is way better looking than my boyfriend (something I don’t even care about). 
What should I do?

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Your boyfriend obviously seems to understand that someone being physically violent is disrespectful (that’s why he has a problem with your friend) but doesn’t recognise how disrespectful it is for him to hit you?
It sounds like you’ve got a great best friend, and a shitty boyfriend. You need to end the relationship.
Anger issues or not, he should not be hitting you.

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If he hit you you need to leave. Your friend was right to hit him but that doesn’t mean you have to date him.

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Your boyfriend hit you. He is no man. You should definitely break it off with him. That doesn’t, however, mean you should date your guy friend. You can ultimately date whoever you want. But you should definitely break up with the sorry excuse of a boy who you are dating. No one should ever put hands on the one they love - men and women alike. You just don’t do that. Anger issues is no excuse. And the fact he took you into the woods to do it makes it that much worse because that shows that he likely planned it all along. He knew it might get that ugly to a point of him striking you.

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Please take all other things out of the equation. Remember this- your boyfriend hit you and you have normalised this in your head..... making excuses for him.... Get help and leave this guy. Try counselling.

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leave ur boyfriend, all it takes is 1 time. Ur guy best friend did the right thing.. Speaking from experience, I pretty much went through the same thing.. I left my ex and found someone amazing, you has never placed a hand on me, no matter how angry he gets... U don't have to date ur friend, unless you want to. but don't throw away ur friendship for a guy who is willing to hit you.

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Your boyfriend hit you, you need to leave him.

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What are you doing with a guy that hits you? That ain’t no love...

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What the absolute fuck... he hit you and you’re asking this?

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It concerns me that you’re unsure of leaving him when he clearly hits you, and by your nonchalant way of mentioning it, it seems like he’s done it more than once. 
Your best friend has known you longer and I don’t think he’s “in love” with you, but probably super protective of his friend. He’s also a much better human being. Listen to your friends and family & leave your boyfriend. You may think he’s the love of your life, but trust me when I say you’re better off on your own than with an abusive boyfriend.

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You don’t have to date your best friend if there’s no attraction, but what he said is 100% true.  He could have hugged you, like a little sister so you don’t need to get ahead of yourself unless you already know he has feelings for you. Frankly speaking, your best friend did the right thing and I am glad he punched that scumbag boyfriend of yours.  No man that loves you, hits you. Over time the beatings will get worse and you will be walking on eggshells around him to not anger him. In many cases women die because of an abusive husband or boyfriend.  
You need to leave that boyfriend, everyone around you is telling you to leave him because they know he is bad for you. He may be your first love, but how he treats you is not love nor respect. Walk away now, before it gets worse. Get some counseling to help you love yourself and discover why you let a guy beat you. You will find someone better in the future who will love and respect you.

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