Nervous about appt

4 weeks ago at 13 weeks, I had a very bad scare with a hemorrhage and lots of blood. They did an ultrasound and I was too afraid to look at the screen (my husband did and swears he saw baby flipping!) I finally go back for my check up tomorrow with an ultrasound and dr appt following. I have had no signs of anything wrong and have felt little movements from baby, but I am so anxious! I had a miscarriage last June and just feel like I need this scan to go well for me to admit I am actually going to have this baby. I will be 16 weeks 6 days tomorrow! Anyone have a similar experience?!

Also— anyone think there is a chance they can tell the gender tomorrow?!