What do you think about throwing away your last name and adopting your husbands name when you marry? If women these days are for equal rights, why are we so okay about taking our husbands names and giving our children their names only? I mean.. we do all the hard work of carrying the baby for 9 months and breastfeeding etc. We should get some appreciation for it at least. For example, my fil ( most sexist person I know) told me and my parents that only he and his wife were my childrens real grandparents because they shared his last name. He has only one child. My husband. He told my mother she would understand what it felt to be a grandparent when my brother had children. Everytime we talk about one of the kids traits, he'll say.. thats because hes an (last name). He refuses to say that our kids have any resemblence to their maternal family

So why doesnt it work the other way around most times? How would your husbands feel if they were expected to change their last names?

Side note: My husband is totally fine with me keeping my maiden name. But recently whenever we go somewhere, they call me his gf because my last name is different from his. What peeves me is this close minded thinking that just because I dont have his last name, I'm his girlfriend.

One time my Fil repeated the same thing over a toast at my sons first bday party, my husband told him that I could have easily given our kids my last name but I was generous enough not to so he should shut up. That made him sit down quick lol.

My fil also likes to say.. that if women in a household are loud and talk too much l, the entire family will have bad luck. So women should just shut up and let their husbands take the wheel. Yeah my daughter will not be spending any unsupervised time with him lol