How to deal with totally different love languages?

Me and my partner have been living together for six years now and we still struggle with having totally different love languages. His is mainly physical touch and words of affirmation and I've always struggled with low sex drive and don't have much interest in hugging and kissing and stuff, and I'm really bad at telling him he looks good and so, I just never think of it and I feel horrible for it. I try hard to, but I fail. And mine are mainly quality time and actions and he works a lot and when he's home he's tired and doesn't help out at all and I know he's tired but I just feel like he's making up excuses and doesn't make effort. Like it doesn't help me if he's telling me I'm pretty all day long if he's just going to lie on the couch looking at memes all day. We've had so many talks but neither of us are getting better. He also refuses therapy. So do you have any advice on how we can get better?