Tonight it just hit me. My husband and I have a 2 and a half year old daughter and an almost 1 year old so pretty close together. Due to forces out of my control I became a stay at home mom, but before that I worked at a hospital as a surgical tech which means long hours on your feet possibly holding another human beings leg up for hours on end in a weird pose,etc so very strenuous job. I use to clock about 5-7 mi a day as well on theFitbit Anyways, when I got off work I still went to pick up my kid(1 at time) and then spent all evening feeding,bathing,playing,cleaning up, laundry, and putting her to bed by myself ( mind you my husband wasn't even working for two years during this period).As a stay at home mom now I do obviously all of the care by myself and I mean all of it. He does have a job now so when he gets off work he eats dinner I've cooked and then goes and sits in the recliner watching TV and playing on his phone for 3-4hours while I'm still running around trying to get stuff done while STILL taking care of the kids. It dawned on me that he doesn't even know what drawer their clothes are in if they need something. They are almost 1 and 3 years old. He doesn't know how to even calm or soothe the youngest when she cries so he quits trying since it requires him to get up off his ass and be a parent. He just sticks her in her bouncer and let's her cry until I come get her. Not once has he let me have ONE night to sleep while he watches the kids on a weekend....not once. My youngest is still up 4 times a night and the oldest fights going to bed like it is her job. I cant nap during the day because the oldest doesn't nap anymore so I run on 3-5hrs interrupted sleep every day. I've tried talking to him, telling him that even when I worked I still did all the childcare,etc and he basically blows up as he cant communicate without cussing or throwing a tantrum and trying to make everything into my fault. Is anyone else in the same position and what have you done to get through to them or at least get them to give you one outing a month by yourself for just an hour. Haven't been to the doctor in months or had a haircut in almost 6mo because of this. Don't have anyone to help besides him basically. Any advice??