I am 35w and 5d. My husband is deployed. He is currently still in the states but only until the 26th and then leaves for the Middle East. I am so torn with this baby and how I should attempt to help him enter this world. I am a VBAC candidate and is the most appealing plan for birth. However my first daughters birth was very traumatic and ended in a c-section because my pelvis was most likely too small or her positioning was off. If I attempt a VBAC there are definitely risks that if I’m not successful I will end up having a emergency c-section again and last time they put me under general because of all the trauma. This is where I get scared because that would mean my baby would most likely come into this world without either of his parents to greet him. As I wait for labor to happen there is no way to predict and plan for my husband to come home in time. If he makes it to the Middle East before I go into labor it is a two day travel to get back.

So then my other option is a schedule c-section and then we can plan for him to be home. The down side to this is I am terrified to have another. The healing process was hell and on top of it all we just moved to be closer to family for help and my new home is three different levels with the bathrooms both have stairs in order to get to them.... I would most likely have to live with my mother for a month if I have a c-section....

I have another growth scan to estimate this baby’s weight and size to help determine what route to go. It’s in about a week and a half. So confused if I should try for what I really want with the VBAC knowing it could go sour and my husband won’t be there or if I should just do the c-section and suffer after. 😣