Yesterday I finally told my family that my life is falling apart.

I mean in the last 6 months my husbands car was repoed.

My husbands pay started being garnished to pay for the remainder of that car.

I got a good paying job but then was sexually assaulted 3 months in and decided not to go back - and haven’t been able to find a job since.

Because I’m not working we’ve fallen behind on rent, we’re being evicted and have no where to go. We’re behind on loan and credit card payments which has ruined our credit.

On top of all this I just entered my second trimester (got pregnant before I left that job btw) and don’t have insurance.

So yesterday I finally sucked it up and told my family what was going on trying to get some advice/help.

My sister some how construed everything I said and made it out to be solely my husbands fault, which is far from the truth.

She said that since we’ve been together I’ve been slipping with my financial responsibilities... Before we got together I didn’t have any real financial responsibilities, my son and I lived with my mother. So all I had to pay for was my sons food/care and help out with bills (which wasn’t a lot).I owned my car so I didn’t have payments until my sister convinced me to trade it in for a newer car.

My husband and I have lived together for 3 years,married for 1 and all this just now started happening....

But she thinks everything is his fault and even went so far as to say that if he can’t get his shit together and be financially stable then we don’t need to be together and that that isn’t a good father figure for my children.

My husband is an amazing man! His mother died when he was a teen and he took over the responsibilities of taking care of his disabled father at 17 because his 30 year old sister couldn’t be bothered. He’s always had a full time job and some times multiple jobs. When we met he had no problem accepting my son and they adore each other. He’s had no problem picking up the slack where I faulted and has always been incredibly supportive.

For her to blame everything on him, when in truth it’s really my fault, really just hurts me. Yes we’ve both made some poor financial decisions but for her to go as far as saying he isn’t a good father because of money issues (which she has had herself)just blows my mind.

(For those who may ask, I am trying incredibly hard to find another job. I’ve applied to minimum wage jobs such walmart, dollar general,lowes etc. I’ve also emailed my old boss from before the assault asking for if they need any help. I’m not jobless by choice)