Terrible at being married

I feel like it shouldn't be this hard.

I love him and he loves me and we want to spend the rest of our lives together but it's so hard.

I feel like such a terrible wife 90% of the time. I feel like we are never on the same page. It's like we speak different languages. No matter what I do, I feel like it's always wrong, we always misinterpret each other.

I don't know what to do anymore.

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Posted at Mon, Aug 10 2015

Welcome to marriage 

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Posted at Mon, Aug 10 2015

Read the book the five love languages.. It's saved a lot of marriages

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Mariah • Aug 10, 2015

The covers my be different but it's by Gary Chapman. As long as it has that title and that author.

Tasha • Aug 10, 2015

There's so many of these Five love language how do I kno which one to read???

Gwynne • Aug 10, 2015

I second that book!

Posted at Mon, Aug 10 2015

Do you mind telling us specifics? Every marriage is different, but none is easy. Best wishes and don't gove up just yet!! 

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Posted at Tue, Aug 11 2015

Marriage is not easy, hon. There's a reason why the divorce rate is so high. My husband and I have been married three years and it has been a RIDE. There have been several times I've wanted to throw in the towel, but if you truly love each other, you'll work through it. It gets easier as time goes on, trust me. 

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Posted at Tue, Aug 11 2015

Go to counseling. Like, to a real licensed marital therapist, not a pastor or friend.  It's really great. It's great even if you don't have problems. Also, don't worry too much about being a terrible wife. That job description is infinitely flexible. Be a wonderful you. And show love. And be patient. This is all assuming that you are safe. If not, just get out ASAP! 

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Posted at Mon, Aug 10 2015

His Needs, Her Needs by Willard F. Harley Jr. is a helpful book.

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Posted at Mon, Aug 10 2015

Try marriage counseling or reading 7 principles to making marriage work & How to get the love you want. Hope it helps. 

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