Wanting a baby ??!

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Warning it’s a lot to read but I’d appreciate the help : 
Here’s some background info So recently I’ve moved in with my bf we I love him to death we’re both 21 and we’ve been dating for about 5 months now, I currently don’t work bc of the town I had to move to was an hour away from my job and I don’t have my own car anymore because it broke down so I’m basically a stay at home Gf with “wife duties “ we have our fights here and there but we tend to get over it quickly, my bf is diagnosed w/bipolar disorder but he’s never “acted” out on me except once where he got really mad bc I accused him of cheating and he flipped the coffee table which I know is terrible but that was a few weeks ago and it was the only time, anyways I know he loves me he literally provides everything for me and doesn’t complain I’ve been here for about 3 months & 2 months without a job and he never complains he just tells me a job will eventually come, So he’s honestly the best bf I am older by a few months which is a first for me normally I go for at least 3 years older. I love babies and children but I’ve never wanted kids until now and I feel like I don’t want to wait anymore and we’ve talked about kids but like I said I told him I didn’t want any and he told me he eventually wants kids just not now but lately all I’ve been wanting is a cute little baby ): 
Do you think it’s just cause I’m not working and I feel like having a baby or is it just the whole still beginning of the relationship stuff I don’t even know what I’m asking for here I just need someone to talk to me about this lol

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You have no car or job and a very new relationship with someone you don’t trust and who has anger issues. I don’t think adding a baby to your life right now would be a good idea. Just my opinion.

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It’s a biological urge to want to reproduce. Your new relationship might be triggering that biological urge because now you have a partner to reproduce with 
But, you don’t sound ready. You still seem quite unstable in several aspects of life, and it’s best to wait until you’re as stable as possible before having a child

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There is nothing wrong with wanting a baby, but it does sound like you have some stuff to work out first. It can certainly be exciting when you get into a relationship that changes the way you feel about something that you never thought you wanted, and all of a sudden you're feeling like omg I want this so bad. However, as much as I understand the feeling I definitely think it's a good idea to make sure you are better settled in with a new job and maybe a vehicle as reliable transport. Also important to make sure you're both comfortable with your new living situation, and you would be surprised how different things can be with that after a year or even 6 months. Last thought is that it would be VERY important to make sure you are both ready as you said he said "not right now, but someday" to having kids. You will figure it out when the time is right☺

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You’re not ready

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Best to wait! You may be in "nesting mode" being at home. Don't rush

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I advise waiting. I personally don’t think a baby is a good thing to bring into a relationship unless you’re both on the same page. If he says he isn’t ready for kids yet, I’d really take that to heart. Last thing you want, once again my opinion, is to have a baby, have him not want to be involved because he isn’t ready, and now you’re single and with no job or childcare. I don’t know your whole situation, maybe you have supportive family around, but going from being a couple to having a child is a major reality leap. You’re very young and you have lots of time. I found that the idea of a baby is very different than the reality of a baby.

Wanting a baby ??!

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