Am I wrong? To boring?

I am currently pregnant with my second baby, and since having our first sex has been really difficult. It’s even harder with the fact that my now 1 year old still continues to sleep in our bed and refuses to sleep in his crib. In addition to that, my spouse works about 12 hour shifts due to his law enforcement career and most of the time he’s so exhausted to do anything. when we try to... anyone with a one year old would understand how difficult it is to try to get a quickie in even if my child takes nap (doesn’t last very long) . As a former chronic bv sufferer almost anything can easily throws my ph off.... even SOAP. My spouse calls me boring as I can not receive oral sex because again I’ll have an bv infection. Mind you I have no problem giving him oral ( I just can’t have any saliva contact inside me)

I’m so sensitive and it hurts my feelings because I can’t help the fact that I’m prone to such infections (bv). My husband is aware of this watched me struggle and cry about this on occasions.

I really don’t want to subject my unborn to an infection because of oral and my spouse knows this. He even complains about washing up before sexual activity even when I have the opportunity to imitate it:(

Am I wrong because I want to have clean sex?