Alright so I just recently learned how to orgasm (I had trouble fully letting go) and now I’m trying to show my boyfriend how to make me do it. We have been together for 4 years and in all that time he has never made me orgasm (but to be fair I never had one before til recently).

So last night I was trying to explain to him how to make me orgasm and he kept rubbing too hard even when I would tell him not to and he kept changing the speed/location of where he was rubbing which for me kept messing it all up because for me to orgasm I need consistency. He also kept losing the spot and kept going too low to almost where my urethra is. I kept trying to explain this to him and by this point we were going on like 45 minutes when it only takes me 4 minutes when I do it myself.

My boyfriend got upset and stopped, then starting crying saying he feels embarrassed because he can’t make me orgasm. So that completely took me out of the mood knowing there was pressure on me now to do it plus the frustration of going on 45 minutes to the point where I hurt more than felt good. I just don’t know how to explain to him what to do and I cant even try to explain it to him without him getting upset and saying that I like masturbating more than him.

Any and all advice would be appreciated greatly...