Break ups are crap

This last Sunday I broke up with the guy I had been with for 5 years. The relationship was toxic and at times violent but I will put my hand up and say when it did get violent I didn't just stand there I have as good as I got as I have a anger problem which he knew about from the start. I have a autoimmune condition of the liver and all the fighting, arguing was making me ill. I came home for a week to look after my mum as she was having a operation and the day before I'm going back he calls and I end up crying and he's shouting. It was after this as in this call he said a we 're over that I made my mind up. For 3 years of the relationship whenever we argued he would say we were over and I don't want that hanging over me anymore. I'm just struggling as I have had to move back in with my mum which is the middle of nowhere and I'm looking for jobs and getting nowhere too. Just need some words of encouragement to help keep my head high and know I will be ok. Sorry for the long post and thank you if you read all the way through. Big hugs to everyone xxxx 💖