overwhelmed!!

Guys I know this isn't a platform to release your frustrations but we shared our concerns the whole 9 months so I need to vent out my feelings regarding my husband..

Well .. I'm 3 weeks postpartum and also have one 20 months old boy who's wild . I'm practically getting no sleep at night and from 7 am my toddler wakes up and then it goes to whole new level .My husband gives excuses that he can't handle our toddler when I ask him to keep him busy with him for an hour or two so I can get some sleep but when I close the door, my boy keeps coming at my door crying and screaming and it's impossible to sleep . He also can't handle the newborn because it's hard for him to handle such a tiny baby .

Well.. if he does some kitchen work , there will be yucky mess over the counters and sink which I can't stand at all. When I ask him to take out the trash because bins are more than full he will literally do it after one whole day ..

My mother sent me a whole very big parcel of clothes for me , him and our kids . I was changing the diaper of my toddler when he brought that parcel inside and starting to open it. I was waiting for it for last many days and wanted to check the stuff myself first . When I asked him to stop and let me see it first .. he made a big deal out of it and threw that bag away .. now for last 2 days , he's not talking to me , neither with toddler.. if he goes to him then he talks to him in harsh tone to leave him alone .

well with all the post partum period going on , I can't stand his odd behaviour. I've gone through pregnancy and delivery at the cost of my body .. I shouldn't be the one making compromises and taking responsibility of every single thing.. I'm overwhelmed and I'm afraid it's too much for me to handle at this point.