I’ve been with my boyfriend for nearly two years now. I moved in with him in late spring. He’s a very physically affectionate person, and I’m really not. When we first started dating, I was so bad at reciprocating his affection Bc I just was never really like that, but eventually got used to it and would be touchy back. However, when I moved in, I came to realize that I never have any space from him. At all. He only works 3 days a week, so the rest of the 4 days he’s here at home with me while I try to finish schoolwork. I can’t even go to the bathroom without him coming in... it’s become really frustrating. Even so, I feel like for the most part I’m still touchy enough with him. We got in an argument because every time we walk past each other or I’m doing something, he’ll come up behind me and (not so gently) grab my boobs or ass. Now, that’s fine to a point, but it makes me feel more like an object than a sign of love. So our argument started out with that, to which he got very mad at me for saying because “at least he still touches me.” Yes. Sure. But, it doesn’t feel loving when the only places you touch are sexual. I suggested he hold my hand or caress my arm or SOMETHING that seemed more affectionate instead of lusty. He didn’t like that. He then went on to tell me that for the last 3 months I haven’t been affectionate at all. I’ve seen a slight change in myself over the last couple of weeks due to stress, but I had no idea 3 months.. he says I never lay on him when we’re on the couch or come up to him and hug him (I do that part, but I see what he means about the couch thing) but I feel like he fails to realize that when we’re both sitting on the couch, I’m typically doing schoolwork. Or I’m feeling cornered Bc I haven’t been able to escape him all day, even when I have to pee. He didn’t seem to understand where I was coming from there, and I really don’t know what to do.. I don’t want to force myself to feel anxious and cuddle with him 24/7, but I also don’t want him to feel hurt. Obviously we both have different love languages, with his being touch, and mine being gifts. Any advice on how to fix this would be much appreciated