My mom and I have never seen eye to eye because my whole life I always felt I was never good enough. When I was a kid I was too skinny, as a teenager through college I had bad acne. Now as an adult I'm too fat well at least for Asian standards.. I've only gained 12 lbs during my pregnancy I'm 28 weeks and 2 days. Every time she sees me she reminds me that I have to do the "boiled chicken diet" where right after pregnancy I can only eat plain boiled chicken with a little rice and maybe a drop of soy sauce. It's ridiculous because I know that's not healthy. Giving birth is one of the most life changing events that happens in a womans life. After this we should we recover after our bodies have gone through so much by replenishing and getting more nutrients by eating a balanced diet.. my moms ideals no you're fat wear a girdle and eat plain chicken. Starve yourself to be thin again.. when her and my aunts have the weird skin flap on their stomach like Adam Sandler in click.. which I don't want plus I plan on breastfeeding and read you have to eat as much when you were pregnant to produce enough milk. I'm tired of this unsolicited advice and keep gently telling her no I'm not doing this. Then last night she flipped out on me when I said I'm not taking advice from people who don't even look good themselves and my sister joined her because she's like my mom and loves drama. Then my mom reverses this into me being the one hurting her feelings and how she's the victim. She was even being rude and said how even if she paid her she wouldn't watch our kid. When guests comes over she always brags about how she's going to stay with us for a month to help out.. I can barely stand visiting her.. the idea of my mother moving in with us for a month bothers me too. I apologize for the long post. I just needed to let out my feelings and would like some advice.