So I am currently 22 weeks with Mo/Di girls! So exciting! I already have a 9 year old daughter and a 3 year old daughter. My mother never attended any baby showers or births. She has never been to their birthday party’s or any holidays. When we found out we were having twins she wanted to throw us a shower. It is planned for the Saturday after thanksgiving because that is literally the only time I can make the 6 hour drive up to where she lives now for the shower, all of my family lives there. At the beginning she asked me about theme and my ideas with cake and decor. I want a Boho theme, very plain, pinks golds and teals. I have sent her many many many many pictures of ideas. Well last night she tells me she bought all the decor for the shower. I said well send me pics. She said oh don’t you want it to be a surprise, um no. I told her how she used them would be a surprise but I wanted to see them. Y’all!! She bought zoo animals!!!!!! Like what the actual F***!!! I do not do characters or silly themes like that whatsoever!! I am so livid. Not at the decor I’m livid that she did not listen to me at all. I’m mad that she doesn’t even know me well enough to know I hate that kind of stuff. I told my husband that if his mom my MIL was planning the shower like she did my last one she wouldn’t have to ask me a thing because she knows me so well. I have a few weeks to get over it. I’m not trying to sound ungrateful. I really appreciate everything. It just hurts me that she doesn’t seem to care really how I feel. I’m just annoyed I guess.