Abort the pregnancy...?

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First off, I feel terrible just writing this. That I’m thinking of an abortion. Never in my wildest dreams would I have thought I’d be in a situation like this. Please don’t judge me as I did others - the universe has ways of teaching you lessons just as it did to me. I was pro choice but not in marriage and now look at me. When others are desperately trying to get preggo, I’m tempted to abort. 😭
Our daughter is almost 21 months old. After long discussions the hubs & I decided for him to have a vasectomy as we definitely did not want any more children for various reasons. He had it done on the 26th Oct. The night before, the 25th Oct, we had sex, he ejaculated inside me without thinking and we still joked imagine if I fell pregnant. My periods have been all over the place lately so I really wasn’t worried. Yesterday I felt weird so laughingly took a test. It was positive. Bought a clear blue digital and yes, pregnant 1-2weeks. 
I don’t know what to do. I feel that if we keep this baby I am betraying my daughter- one of the reasons of not having more kids was that I could focus on her as she is really my best friend and I love her madly!! Financially we would have been amazing with just one baby - but two? That’s tricky. Goodbye dreams of traveling. Life will be so tight. 
So I am tempted to take the abortion pills. But then I also feel everything happens for a reason? But this will alter our entire lives - not just ours but our daughters. She didn’t ask for this. We fucked up. I dislike my brothers and I’ve rarely met anyone who is actually really close to their siblings. 
Please help me. Please give me advice. Should we keep this baby? Should I take the pills and rewind time? I need help. Please, I need help. 
😭😭😭

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I am a believer everything happens for a reason.  Also, giving your daughter a sibling is the best gift you could ever give your child.  I have a brother and a sister. We are close and I can’t imagine how lonely being an only child would be.  Not to mention I think of someday hopefully many many years from now when my parents would pass away to have to go through that by yourself would just be an awful experience.  Also, not to be morbid, but we have family friends who lost their son at 16 years old, he was an only child.  His parents went on to adopt two children because they just couldn’t handle the loss and the thought of not having any children with them to raise. Healthy babies are a miracle, it may not have been your plans but it happened for a reason!

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I just lost a baby due to miscarriage, and it is sincerely the worst emotional pain I have ever experienced. I wouldn’t wish it upon anyone. I’ll never get to see the baby interact with my older son, no bedtime stories, first smile, tooth, steps, graduations, wedding, grandkids, etc. I’m missing it all bc that baby is gone. My son is missing out on a best friend, someone he can lean on when our husband and I annoy him beyond belief, someone to play sports with, or go trick or treating with. I’m aware that choosing to end a pregnancy is a decision, but I’m not sure that it will give you the relief you’re looking for.
I’m a huge believer that God has a plan for everything. Unplanned pregnancy, planned, miscarriage, etc. There’s a reason no matter how much we don’t want to accept it.
My sister (3 of 3) was definitely unplanned; my brother was supposed to be the last child. However, she turned into a pleasant surprise. She and I rarely got along as kids, teens, or young adults (maybe our circumstances had something to do w that?). That all changed the second I got engaged. Now we’re both married, buying homes, have solid careers, raising little boys, and as close as can be. She’s my best friend, and I would trudge through all the rough times again if it meant keeping her through all of the best times now.
Wishing you all of the best during this difficult decision. It can’t be easy.

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Do how u feel and don’t feel horrible!

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I dont have any advice but i would like to say dont feel bad.I have 2 boys and want a 3rd my husband and finances do not.I think i would feel torn the same way as you of i got pregnant accidentally.you and your reaction are completely normal

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Wanting to travel isn’t a reason to abort a baby! I promise(I LOVE to travel) and you can always do it with 2 kids! It’s a little more expensive but not a ton more than 1 kid. Plus you will LOVE this child so much, just think of the feelings you have for your first! You’ll have them with 2 babies and they will love each other and play with each other and have each other to always lean on. Babies come all the time when people least expect them and they turn out to be the greatest gifts!! ❤️❤️ you can do this, babies are awesome, siblings are awesome(I have 4, my husband has 7), traveling is awesome! And You can do it!

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I am extremely close with my siblings and everyone that I know is. It’s all about how you raise them too! But no one can make this decision for you, just thought I would throw that out there that I truly believe siblings are the best gift I ever received!! Another plus is when you have two, they entertain and play with each other. Every second time mom fears that they can’t love another as much as they love their first, but I have heard that it’s simply not the case. If you decide to keep this baby, the moment you hold him/her I’m sure you will feel the same overwhelming love you have for your first and your heart will grow. Good luck with whatever you decide!!

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His baby is an absolute
Blessing! A sibling! A forever friend! Another joy! Look at the joy his baby will bring! This baby was meant to be hun!

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You're not a horrible person, don't ever feel like that or let anyone judge you for your choices.  I'm not in your shoes, i can only give you my experience, we have 4 and I'm actually in labor with #5 right now.  Our kids love eachother to death and they love having someone to play with when I'm cooking or doing laundry or cleaning.  You have to do what's best for your family and what makes sense for yall and be at peace with it. Make the decision with your husband that yall can look back on peacefully and know that you did what was best. Whether that's aborting the embryo (because as early as you are it's not a baby, it's not viable, and the pill will essentially give you a miscarriage which isn't bad) or if you decide to keep it, your daughter will have a permanent friend. They may fight and they may argue but they may also love eachother more than you know.   Whatever you and your husband decide I know it will be the best for hall's family. Just follow your heart!

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