Anal, How?

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How can you guys do anal that shit hurts so bad dry or lubed up😖. Do any of you have hemorrhoids and do it ? Like it hurts so bad we never get it in when we try. He like always talks about it but I can never bare past the pain of getting it in. Ever since I got hemorrhoids we have been together 3 years and only done it 2 times when we first got together (he likes using the Devil's Lube as he calls it , just spit)  Like that first year then I got pregnant and got hemorrhoids and I can't do it at all with out it hurting super bad. And it makes me feel bad because I know he wants it but I just can't any ways to make it less painful?

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Fuck that it feels like your shitting a knife 🙅🏼‍♀️

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We love anal! I’ve had 2 kids and never had a hemorrhoid in my life. But we use tons of coconut oil for lube.  Spit isn’t enough. And I didn’t just go straight to anal. I enjoyed fingering first and I feel like that helped. Also, he plays with my vagina at the same time so it feels really good! An anal orgasm is amazing!

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I have IBS constipation since I was a kid so I have bad hemorrhoids. I still love anal sex. It seems like your man doesn’t know what he’s doing. 
First of all, you need tons of lube. Like when you think it’s enough, it’s not, add some more. I recommend silicone based lube for anal sex because it lasts longer than water based. It’s just not good to use with condoms, but you said you’ve been together awhile so I’m assuming that’s not an issue. 
Secondly, you have to “prep” your asshole for penetration. I usually have my man do this, but you can do it yourself. There’s two ways to do it. The first way is to finger yourself using lube until you’ve stretched yourself enough for penetration. This can take a few minutes so be patient with it. Relax and stretch yourself out adding another finger once you’re ready. If your man is doing this, make sure your in control and tell him when you’re ready for another finger. I’d say about 3 fingers should feel comfortable before you have him penetrate you. The second way is with anal beads or a butt plug. They make these toys in beginners sizes. A butt plug is my personal favourite because I can prep myself before or during foreplay so I’m ready to go when the time comes. Just have to take it slow when inserting and use lots of lube. 
When I’m in the mood for it, I love anal sex more than vaginal sex. You just need to have a patient partner. I wish you the best of luck exploring!

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Just tell him to stop asking. You deserve to enjoy each sex act you engage in. If it hurts then don't do it! If he keeps asking despite knowing it causes you pain then he's selfish.

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Use something other than spit and I'm sure you'll notice a difference

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I know it's easier said then done but just try to relax. Thinking about the pain will only make you tighten up. Maybe get some anal toys so you can help yourself get use to anal play. Try vaginal and or clitoral stimulation while he's back there. I find changing positions can help ease the pain. If you're on your back with legs up and it hurts too much try lying on your belly and have him enter from behind (I find this the least painful). Have him go really slow. Enter a little bit at a time. I have been having anal sex for 10 years and it can still be painful after not doing it for a while. But it is an amazing feeling once he gets in there. I hope this helps💗

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My boyfriend and I have have only done it twice.. once right after I had our son and it took me 2 yrs to get up the courage. Please please use lube!!!! And not water based! I would recommend starting it doggie style as well... I used my bullet vibrater to keep me going then he put it in... as long as he keeps the lube on and it doesn’t get dry the worst part is putting it in.  Good luck 🤪

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I couldn't until after having my son no matter how slow we tried things 🤷 your cooter is not the only part that stretches during childbirth lol

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Yeah you can't just use spit it'll dry up so fast. Have you guys worked your way up or did you just jump right to it? You're suppose to ease your way into it like start with a finger and such first. Of course though, not everyone finds pleasure in it. But doing things before hand can ease a lot of the discomfort! Also, if you have hemorrhoids I wouldn't think anal is a good idea...