I don't think my bf likes my vagina..

Me and my bf (of 3+ years) were trying to have an open discussion about our bodies and issues with sex. We have good sex, but I struggle with recurring BV, and I also sometimes feel loose to him (which yes I know is normal). He brought up about how he knows he long (9ich) but he feels he isn't girthy. I started to feel like he was more so saying that he thinks he's to thin, but meaning that I don't feel tight enough, which sucks but I do kegals every day and I don't know what else I can do. We began talking about aesthetics, he is on the ace spectrum so he already has sex repulsion, but he extremely timidly told me that he feels like my vulva is too thick and prominent, and maybe it had to do with that I was born intersex due to exposer to testosterone. I talked about how women get labia plastis and he said it would feel wrong to make me change my body like that.

He asked me if I was feeling self conscious or if he made me feel ugly and I said no but I do. I want to be beautiful to him, and I know with his sex repulsion he most likely won't ever find my vagina ”beautiful” but I want him to not think it's ugly at least. I just feel like I am not the best I could be and I don't know what to do.