Am i being overly dramatic or demanding to much from him?

Okay so, I've never written something before but I just feel like I need a place to vent and get some opinions.

I've got this boyfriend, we have been together for 2 and a half years. It's sort of complicated. The guy I'm with is really devoted to his family, his mother and sister's. He is 23 but still lives at home. The thing about our relationship is that his father doesn't know about me. His father has meet me through his sister and basically came to the opinion that I'm a money grubby whore. My so won't explain much to me about his family Dynamics but I do know it's not healthy. His entire family hide half their lives from the father because he is so controlling. None of them will admit to him being abusive but I have to wonder. But because of all this my so won't tell his father about me. The dad had previously disowned his daughter for being in a relationship he didn't approve of.

And I kind of understand all of that. Or I at least try to. But because of this issue with his father the only time we get to see each other is at work or maybe Saturday when his dad thinks he's at work. I recently got a promotion at work and it has made seeing each other at work difficult. But at the same time I've not seen him outside of work in 4 months. We've been fighting a lot lately. I want more in the relationship and he can't and I kind of understand that although I get very frustrated. Our fighting has gotten to the point that we've almost broken up.

We sat down and had a talk about how we needed to find a time to be together, to focus on us. Because of the daddy issue the only chance we get is a few hours on the weekend. Tonight was supposed to be the night that we sat aside to be for just us and to focus on each other, yada yada. The rest of the month is full and we have half of December off for Christmas which means I can't see him. But he told me he didn't want to come over because he wants to play call of duty. I got mad, I felt hurt. To me it felt like he was choosing a game over trying to fix our relationship. He claims I'm over reacting and it's not that big of a deal and he will just come over in 3 weeks.

My question is, am I over reacting?