marriage before baby?

Question

so back in the day and to some extent today it is frowned upon to have children before marriage. do you look down upon women who have children before marriage? or teen moms who aren’t married? why or why not?

Answer

It’s a personal choice and I wouldn’t pass judgement on how someone else wants to live their life and I expect the same from others; not everyone thinks the same though.
We decided to get our engaged, get our house, get married and have a child in that order but it doesn’t mean that someone that chooses to do it in another order is in any way different to me as a parent. 
You can’t win these days anyway, some people say you should get married before having kids then when you do get married you’re told you’re too young to get married 😂

Answer

I do not look down on people who have children before marriage, that's their business not mine. 🤷🏾‍♀️ However, I did not want to have children before marriage. My husband and I had a checklist before having children:
- Earn our Master's Degrees
- Get married
- Become homeowners
Thank God we were able to do all of that before getting pregnant. 🙌🏾 Like I said, I do not look down on people who do it differently, however, that's just not how we wanted to do it. My parents were married for eight years before they had me and my in-laws were married for four years before they had my husband so I think our goals regarding marriage and family has a lot to do with our upbringings. However, people can do whatever they want. It's not my place to judge. The most important thing is that their children are taken care of and has two parents in their lives, whether in the same home or not. It's funny that this topic came up because some of our church members were just discussing having children out of wedlock today.

Answer

First of all its none of my business what people do. Secondly, I had my first child when I was 18, got pregnant at 17... Oh, and did I mention she has downs (it was a rough road).. My daughtet is 9 now and I just recently had another child with my SO of 2 years. We've been planning on getting married basically since we started dating not that it matters. We love our children just same as we would if we were married. Also, he treats my daughter just the same as his own as I do his son (both from previous marriages). I personally don't really care if they're married or not as long as the children are taken care of properly and not singled out.

Answer

Where is the simple “no”. Lol

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