Need ideas


I’m extremely kinky like slap me pull my hair, I like being dominated my fiancé says he likes it but he never really engages anything unless I tell him “ pull my hair or choke me.” I even have to tell him when you use our fun stuff, is there any way I can get him to try this type of stuff on his own it’s kinda dumbing down me being submissive having to tell him what to do?please give me suggestions