Where are you god?

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Does anyone have any advice or how to cope with miscarriage and understanding why did god let this happen? He can move mountains, heal the blind but couldn’t help my baby? It just makes no sense why would he not want me to have a child? I know I shouldn’t be angry at him but I can’t help it. Any advice or words of wisdom to help me understand?

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God hears you and knows exactly what you experiencing. I have experienced 3 myself. The one thing I know for sure, they are not counted "loss", I will see them again in heaven. After all, He knows how I'm feeling because He sent His only son to die for me. What I don't want to do is to worship the idea of wanting a baby more than I will worship God. <> Yet, at the same time I'm learning, with all of the physical, and mental pain, the stronger my FAITH in Him has to be. It's impossible to please God without Faith. I'm praying for your strength young lady. Please take it 1-day at a time. I just took a few days off to get through this 3rd one happening so close to the 2nd one. We will receive what God has for us!

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It’s awful, but there’s almost always a good medical reason for it to happen. My husband and I are sort of lucky we found out on an ultrasound that our baby that I’m pregnant with now has a lot of physical problems which are probably caused by chromosomal abnormalities and the baby most likely will not survive to be born. This is the scientific reason for almost every miscarriage, a chromosomal issue that causes the death of the baby, and most of the time you never find out the “why,” so for us this time (this is our second loss out of three pregnancies) it’s almost nice to have a “reason” for the loss. As far as god, I don’t pretend to be very in touch with the religious side of things, but if you consider that the overwhelming likelihood is that the baby was never healthy due to complete random chance, maybe try to see it as a mercy of sorts that the baby is now no longer needing to suffer. Miscarriages usually don’t happen to completely healthy babies, and the issues babies have during pregnancy are almost always totally random and nothing you could have ever done anything to avoid. There’s also probably no reason you can’t or won’t have a healthy pregnancy later, even if you’ve already had multiple losses. These things sometimes just happen. 
I wish you peace in grieving your loss. ❤️🌈

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Gets me mad too. Why would you give it to me then snatch it away not fair.

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This is a hard one to answer, because at the end of the day we don’t know exactly. We’ll just have to ask God when we go Home.
I believe that when we first sinned and allowed sin into the world, that we greatly put the world out of whack. God let us, because of free will, but the world is forever tilted and not right because of it. We now have Death, which is horrible, and it feels so wrong and awful because it wasn’t supposed to happen to begin with. We weren’t supposed to die, to have diseases, to hurt others or ourselves. God can absolutely stop these things if He wanted to... but then you get into the matter of free will. This is so complicated and to be honest every time I learn something new it feels more complicated. 
I lost my first baby, and almost immediately got pregnant with my second. This is so hard- still grieving my first, but if I hadn’t lost it, I wouldn’t have my second! Dealing with this has put my mind into a spin sometimes because of the feelings of guilt. Rejoicing in the new while mourning the loss.
At the end of the day the only things I can say with surety is that I don’t entirely know His plan, and that my first child’s very first view when they opened their eyes was of God’s face. How can I resent that? Skipping the hate and hurt of the world? That’s what gets me through it.
I’m sorry, it sucks, and I hope you can get through this okay. I DO one hundred percent believe God is walking with us. Much love ❤️

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I’m not overly religious but do believe in God because I need to believe in Heaven. I’ve suffered multiple losses and you’re not alone in your feelings. Why do bad things happen to good people and vice versa. It makes no sense. I don’t have an answer for you but just wanted to know you’re not alone. People are quick to say that Heaven needed our babies more than we did but that’s just not a good enough answer for me. I needed my baby. I will always need my baby. ❤️

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My priest said God is not there in the destruction but is in the healing. God is good, but because of free will he allows things to happen in this world that are devastating to us. He did not wish it to happen, but it just did. He is there in the healing and cling to him because he is also hurt by our pain. He is there taking care of our babies until we can hold them in heaven. They were just meant to go home earlier than we want, and God can worth through you for the betterment of yourself and others during this time.
It's difficult, and I hate it. But this fire of a painful life is just refining our souls and even though the challenges we face are difficult and heartbreaking we can get through it. Know you're not alone, both in the heavenly sense and the worldly one.

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I’m so sorry for your loss. It’s hard to put in words the pain. I was told to live in hope. Trust in his Goodness even when you can’t see it, he walks with us in our pain. 
“For in this hope we were saved. But hope that is seen is no hope at all. Who hopes for what they already have?” Romans 8:24
I also took refugee in knowing he does not condemn his followers. This is not a punishment. 
“Who then is the one who condemns? No one. Christ Jesus who died- more than that, who was raised to life- is at the right hand of God and is also interceding for us.” Romans 8:34
I will keep your in my prayers. No words can ever really help.

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You sound very much like me immediately after finding out about our loss. He seemed to be the easiest to blame, so that’s what I did. But I’ve come to figure out during my journey that God doesn’t “do” these things “to” us. I know it feels that way, but that’s just not how He works. He doesn’t sit there and think “I’m going to make this person go through an unbearable storm just because I can”. These things are just life. As crappy as that sounds, and as much as that doesn’t ease the pain or make it better, it’s just life. We go through things to learn or to grow. Or because something better is coming. Sometimes things don’t go our way and maybe they never will. But you WILL make it through this! I promise! 
With our loss, He had Trisomy 22. He never would have survived. And I choose to believe that He took my sweet baby to him to spare us both even more pain. I choose to believe that my son is where he was always meant to be. And I also choose to believe that where he is, is far more beautiful than here. This is just my way of coping. My way of getting through the days. Yours may be different. And that’s ok!!! I’m sending you a great big hug hun! Better days will come. Probably not right away. Go through your grief and don’t stuff it. Let it come as it will. There is no right or wrong way and it is OK to not be OK!! 
❤️❤️

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