How would u feel?

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How would u feel if ur bf has been secretly watching/paying for porn for the last 5 months?! Would u break up with him or.. What?! Just curious what everyone thinks😕

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Who pays for porn these days?

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I view it as cheating. I caught my husband told him to either me or the porn. He picked me of course. He has changed so much from him not watching it. If you have a problem make him choose. If he respects you he will stop watching it or if he has a big problem go get help for it. If he doesn't do either then you have your answer if he truly loves you. That is just me though.

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It would only bother me if he was lapsing on his responsibilities.  Otherwise, I can't control his life nor would I want to.

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No I wouldn't break up with my fiancé over porn. How he chooses to masturbate, including with visual aids and in private, is totally his business. I'm secure enough with myself to be able to handle it. The only part about this that I might have a problem with is if he were spending a lot of money on it. If he bought one or two movies it's not a big deal, but if he spending a lot of money on it I'd be pissed.

I think you are allowed to feel however you feel about it though. The thing is, you really can't control what he does. If you try to control what he does he is going to feel trapped. Other than that, if you feel like you should break up with him, that would certainly allow you the opportunity to find somebody who doesn't like to watch porn. If that is important to you, then you should not be with somebody who likes to watch porn.

But what I want to know is, why would he spend money on porn when there are plenty of free websites out there? Not that that's your concern LOL.

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I've been having this issue for over 2 years and struggling with the same question. I would have never known he was doing it had he not done it on my iPod touch I let him borrow and he didn't even have the decency to close it out. Since then he has said to me he is a "sex addict" and this is what started him doing it. Personally I find it completely offensive. I don't want to see what kind of girls get him off, Milfs, Asian delights, belly dancers nor teens describes me, I don't see how us as women could not be offended.

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It's all about how you feel! I personally would not be okay with it, but I would give them a chance to stop if they wanted to continue to be in a relationship with me. My husband watched it some after I gave birth and it hurt me but I could understand that since we couldn't have sex he felt that he needed it. And I knew it wasn't about me; I am still sexy and feel confident after having a baby 4 months ago lol! BUT he knows it's not okay in the future and is reading books on self control and willpower which I really appreciate. The main thing is to not make him feel disgusting or like he's a bad person, he probably already feels guilty for it. If you're not okay with it though you need to let him know how it makes you feel!

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Give him an ultimatum. You or porn. Personally I make videos for my bf so no need for porn. But i know that's not for everyone. If you really trust him then its just a thought

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There are a lot of studies that say watching porn is good for male fertility and that couples who watch porn together while TTC get pregnant quicker. Maybe he was hiding it just out of enbarassment. Even though materbation is natural, it's some most people don't talk about or share with eachother.

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This is a topic that has mix opinions. I know some women who watch it with their partners. I personal can't. I tried considering I am up for new things but I think it's just knowing my partner is getting turned on by the act of another women I can't watch. Some would call me jealous but it's just how I feel. I have caught my husband watching porn. The biggest mistake I would say is making a big deal about it. After I collected my thoughts it's truly not a big deal even though it may make us feel uneasy. A lot of men watch porn. It has to do with a fantasy. Men are just programmed that way. They are visual. I occasionally still get suspicious when my husband stays up late in his man room on the computer but I have to stop and remember it's just erotic videos... not the same as the real thing. I can't control every aspect of his life. Funny I remember back in the day way before Internet my dad had playboy magazines next to the toliet in his bathroom. Haha! It's just what men do.

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No, watching and cheating are two different things and I don't see a problem with porn.

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