Am I wrong?

Question

Ok so i found out almost a month ago my fiance has been cheating on me since a week after he proposed up until our son was almost a month old. He proposed July 20th the cheating started July 28th. Our son was born September 25th. I found out on October 17th. Well after a week or two we decided that we wanted to try working it out (yes I know i deserve better, yes i know most people say i should leave because "once a cheater always a cheater") but i have a habit of giving more chance than people deserve. But the last couple days i keep thinking about testing him to see if he is actually going to stay loyal but I was talking to a couple of my close friends and they said if I do im in the wrong. I guess my question is am i wrong for wanting to test him?

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You’re not in the wrong, but ask yourself. If the trust isn’t there, is it worth it to keep going? 
Why go through the trouble of trying to catch him in another lie. He may or may not have changed, all you would be gaining is another heartache if he’s lying and if not you’ll eventually have doubts again. Good luck on what you decide to do, always keep your little one in mind and think about him when making decisions.

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If you want to test him, you obviously don’t trust him. You might want to give him that second chance but you’re still having doubts. I don’t think you’re wrong for wanting to do it, but you would be better off by letting him go and finding someone else. 
I agree with the statement that once a cheater always a cheater, and I know some couples work it out but psychology says that once someone breaks your trust, you’re never fully able to trust them again. 
Just something to think about.

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Honestly I say before you get too deep into it again I’d test him before considering a second chance. It’s petty but I’d definitely do it. 🤷🏻‍♀️

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I have an unpopular opinion. Go test him. It will give you an obvious result for you to clear your mind whether he changed or not. I've done it with guys courting me and it works everytime.

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No you aren’t in the wrong & I’m unsure as to why you’re still with his weird ass but if he cheats again then that’s on you🤣 don’t go complaining about it when he’s done it before.

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If your choosing to stay with him I think you need to forgive him and move on. Testing him doesn’t do that, I don’t think that it’s awful and unforgivable but it may end up blowing up in your face.
Obviously it make take time to fully trust him again and you should be cautious with your feelings but I don’t think testing him is right.

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Why propose to you if he’s going to just cheat on you and especially while your pregnant. That just sounds so wrong and not a healthy relationship. I say leave him, the trust went out the door you found out he cheated on you. Why keep continuing to be with a unfaithful guy. You don’t need to be putting up with that, you need better.

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