No sex.

Why doesn’t my husband want sex?!

He doesn’t watch porn, so I know that wouldn’t be an issue. And I know he’s definitely not cheating on me, he is extremely loyal, and an amazing husband in all other aspects.

I recently had a baby in June, so I keep thinking that maybe he isn’t attracted to my body anymore (but I’m only 2lbs away from pre pregnancy weight!), and he says he still likes it. He works a lot, his job is labor intensive so he says he’s tired, and I believe him, but on top of that it just doesn’t seem right. Men typically want sex, right? I shouldn’t be begging my husband for sex. Or putting on lingerie and sucking his penis EVERY TIME I need him. Honestly, without getting nearly as much in return.

It’s getting to the point where I’m just sad. And yes, I’ve told him this. I try to be an adult and talk about my problems. He says he’s sorry, he’ll do better, then NOTHING. The only time we have sex is when I initiate, and I always give more than I get. I feel unloved and lonely. I know I’m definitely not an ugly girl, but my confidence is shot. I’ve just stopped trying and we haven’t had sex at all lately.

Could there be an underlying issue that I’m not seeing? Our marriage has always been happy as far as I’m concerned, very few small bumps in the road.

Honestly, I’m devastated. I’ve given up on a sex life, and I’m SO YOUNG. I desperately need words of encouragement, and advice.

I love him. I’m just so upset.

Thanks for helping a sister out.