How to handle it?

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Hey y’all. I have a question/situation I’m not exactly sure how to handle. I’m 23 weeks pregnant and while I am SO excited and SO blessed I feel like I can’t post about my pregnancy or my daughter on social media. Which in the grand scheme of things doesn’t matter. The reason being, I have so many friends struggling to conceive right now. I know of at least five girls right now who are trying for a little one. Two of which have been trying for over a year. My husband and I got married in June and got pregnant on our honeymoon. We weren’t trying but we weren’t preventing either. I guess what I’m saying is how can I share my excitement without it seeming like I’m bragging or even shoving it in their faces. My closest friend has been TTC for almost two years. And while she is excited for me I know it hurts her when I bring up anything baby related. So I’ve gotten to the point I just don’t talk about it. It breaks my heart. It crushes me that some people struggle for something they want so bad and the last thing I want to do is make it worse by posting/sharing things every now and then. I’m a private person for the most part. I’ve only announced my pregnancy, the gender, and one dr appt check in. But ugh I feel guilty doing that! Am I wrong? Should I just continue to not post? Any advice or words of encouragement would be awesome. Sorry if this came off as rambling

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Sometimes hiding it from someone may hurt them more

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I struggled to get pregnant, but was still happy for people who were because in the end it’s what we al want. I knew I had to stay positive. If he’s a real friend she will be happy for you and you should never feel guilty about wanting to post fun things throughout your pregnancy. This is what I wrote in my announcement because I knew how hard it was sometimes: 
Our hearts are bursting. We are so exited to share that we are having a baby! This year has been filled with excitement, tears, uncertainty, joy, but most of all gratitude. You never forget the deep pain of a loss. It may dim over time, but those two girls will forever be in our hearts. Our loss earlier this year was the darkest moment in our lives , but it made us infinitely grateful for this precious baby growing inside me today. Thank you all for your love and support throughout this journey.
There are so many women who struggle with miscarriage and infertility. I personally know the pain that an announcement may cause, but I can only wish that Mike and I give you hope. If you ever have questions or need to talk, I’m here.

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I try to only post in my Insta stories, that way people don’t have to look rather than a post that stays up...I want to be able to celebrate my pregnancy and embrace it because I love it but I also don’t want to rub it in...so that’s my little compromise

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I have friends who have shared their struggles but who have also been very honest about wanting to celebrate with their friends who get pregnant. We still haven't shared on social media though- maybe when Baby Girl gets here. Right now, we are enjoying sharing our news and experience in person. But even once she arrives, she will have limited social media presence. We are going to use an app like 23snaps or lifecake to share pictures and updates with family that want to see all the adorbs pics and milestones.

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