Separation Anxiety in a relationship?

Question

Hey guys, I’ve been having a tough time preparing to be away from my boyfriend for thanksgiving break. I have been having panic attacks and bursting out crying at random times. I just wanted to know if anyone else has had this happen to y’all when you’re apart from your significant other? And how you deal with it?

Answer

It can be really hard but it’s important that you are able to go about your normal day to day business and enjoy your life when your partner isn’t there.
My husband was like this with me when we first started dating. Didn’t like being apart from me and when we were apart he’d make it clear that he wasn’t doing anything and was just waiting to see me again. He was also pretty much chronically unhappy when we weren’t together.
It took a while to get him to see but I told him that it wasn’t fair to make me responsible for his happiness. He needed to do things that would make him happy whether I was there or not, and I would just slot into that life and those plans.
Do you have many hobbies outside your relationship? I would recommend finding some or making a regular weekly arrangement with a friend or something. That way it’s not all about him and the time you spend with them.
It’s really hard over the holidays, but try focus on the nice times you’ll have with your family!

Answer

My husband was a truck driver and away for a lot of our marriage. It was tough at first but I had to realize I'm a big girl and I couldn't be with him all the time (I'm super clingy.) I spent a lot of time with family and friends. Since this separation is happening over a holiday, I would suggest trying to busy yourself with family and try not to think about the situation of being away from him. I know, easier said than done! 😊