This has nothing to do with ttc but I just need to vent.

My husband and I are 26 and 27, we rent out my fathers home for him because he can not afford it but cant stand to get rid of it. It was our family home that he bought with my mom, his soul mate. She passed away 6 years ago. He is remarried but is now just miserable because the grief is catching up to him. The problem is, he wanted to make her so happy because she wanted this picture perfect wedding at 55 that he maxed himself out on serious debt. He has maybe 20 dollars to his name after his own bills. I dont have the heart to tell him how bad we desperately want to find a house of our own because I know he cant afford it and to be honest, I cant see another family living in all of our family memories and where my mom passed away. So no moving forward with that.

We constantly live on his moms time schedules and when it's not hers, it's my step moms. We work 50+ hours a week each. We never have time to just be together. But if we seek spending time with them they always turn us down. My step mom refuses to come here because it was my moms house and she has serious insecurities about my mom.

(This part is about ttc) weve been ttc for over a year and a half and were pregnant in August. Sadly I miscarried at 7 weeks. We decided to look into fostering for awhile just to take our minds off of ttc. But NOPE! All of our families think it's a horrible idea. Simple to say just dont worry about their opinions and I cant tell you how hard I try but I am a people pleasure. I drive myself utterly crazy to stop but I would just rather them be happy.

But I'm starting to get to a point where I am fed up! And with the holidays coming, were being pulled in two different directions, at 2 separate times and I just want to relax! I have no time to even think a out what I'm thankful for. We spend no time at home, no time with our pups and cat who are our absolute babies. But there is no easy way to tell them how bad I just want to have Thanksgiving, just my husband, our pets, our house.

There is no future for us that isn't down the path of our parents. If anyone understands the movie reference, I feel like the son at the end of Dead Poets Society how he felt trapped (just would never ever do anything to myself)

If you read till the end, thank you for listening.

Are there any other young couple who battle this?