I’m a little frustrated because I’m wanting to start a family but my husband doesn’t even really want to talk about it. I just found out recently that he’s wanting to start a family too though but doesn’t want to have any kids in the state we are in. We are planning on moving out of state in about a year to be with his family, so it’s not like we will be in our ass backward state for long. He opened up to me and told me that he wants no connection with this place and he feels part of him would be stuck here if we had a kid here. I’m a little hurt because I was born and raised here, if he wants nothing to do with this state then he made a mistake by marrying me because part of my heart will always be here and my family is here. I’m also hurt because I had a miscarriage in 2015 and our baby was going to be born in this state too. The miscarriage tore me up for years, partly because I lost 2 other family members at the same time and couldn’t handle the grief. It just kind of hurts my feelings. I’m happy he was open with me and I told him how I felt too but I’m still a bit bothered... I don’t feel that’s a good reason and have taken the comments personally, even though he didn’t mean it that way.

I respect his feelings, I can’t really understand wanting to start a family just as long as they have no connections to my home state. Has anyone been through this too or has any suggestions? We have complete open communication in our relationship so I’ve already spoken to him and he has to me but I’m still kind of bothered and want suggestions before I address it further. He always seems happy when the test is negative too and that kind of hurts, I worry about if he’ll be truly happy when that test is positive.