Should sex be passionate and time taking everytime?

Babe just got upset cause I asked him if we could have sex real quick. He kinda stopped and was like "well you wanna eat first?" I said "no and that I just didn't want to spend 25 30 minutes for sex." and then he says "We can hold off if you want to" and I'm sitting here in my head like "NO I JUST WANT YOU TO FUCK ME AND GET IT DONE WITH SO WE CAN BOTH GET THE FUCK OFF." But what I really said was "I'm gonna go make me a plate." just I feel like sex shouldn't have to be passionate and slow and love filled everytime. Pull my hair and make me feel you damn it.