My MIL visits once a week and I dread when she comes. She has to be with the baby the whole time. She brings her daughter and never lets her carry her and even when the baby is crying his butt off she wants to be the one to calm him even if he doesn’t. My baby is 4 months and weighs 21 pounds usually we carry him when he is awake and when he is sleepy we rock him and then put him down ( that is how I like it) well she carries his heavy self the WHOLE time even when he is asleep. I don’t know why but it drives me nuts. I know her arm hurts cause he is super heavy. She carried him yesterday for 3.5 hours straight when he was asIeep. I didn’t like that one bit, I would like her to put him down once he falls asleep, then when he wakes up then she can pick him up. She also changes his diaper without asking and when I change it she’s just watching me. How do I fix this annoying problem!?