How should I tell my mom I don’t want to go to her ideal college?

Ever since I was little my mom has always wanted her girls to go to spelman and her son to go to morehouse. There is nothing wrong with spelman but I prefer to go to NYU and every time I bring the conversation up to my mom she either shuts it down or gives me the impression that she is disappointed in my decision. I love my mom and she loves me but it’s always been “your going to spelman and that’s final” she loves the school because it’s a hbcu (historical black college) and she found out she was pregnant with me her first semester there. I don’t wanna seem harsh but she won’t give me the time of day to express what I want? I’m in high school now but it won’t be long before the time comes.

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