When to test?... after have miscarried / chemicals before.

Okay lady’s. So I’m 3 days late for the monthly. Hesitant to test just yet due to the evil b seems to play games with me. As in My average cycle range is 29-31. And it varies from month to month. It’s never the same cycle length two months in a row. But with glow the prediction date is pretty spot on. It’s between 2 days before or 2 days after the date it predicts for my cycle to begin.

Anywhoooo. 2 years ago I had a devastating miscarriage at 7 weeks with my 1st. Husband and I were recently married and were so damn happy it happened so soon after our wedding. The day I found out I was pregnant, was the day the blood started. Made an appointment with a midwife she advised me to go to the ER if I was bleeding. Went to the ER, er dr. Said he was unsure if I had miscarried or not because my blood work levels seem right on track although my the ultrasound didn’t show anything, no sac no baby nothing. Followed up with the OB midwife. My levels rose more and another ultrasound, still nothing. So we did blood work the following week my levels tripled and the midwife said I’m definitely pregnant but she was unsure as to why I was bleeding so heavily. I was soaking through an overnight pad every 4-6 hours. Insane. The following week my levels dropped a lot. Midwife said I definitely miscarried now and that I needed to go back for blood the following week. Levels reached below 5 that following week, the worst phone-call I ever had to hear was that I was no longer pregnant. I bleed for a month total. It was horrible. But my husband helped me see it from another angle even though he was just as devastated as I was, but helped me grow from the loss and we kept trying.

August of last year we had a chemical. I was 2 days late, Got a positive on an at home test, messaged my midwife she schedule a blood draw for the next day. Hormones already dropped to normal and the evil b arrived that morning also.

So what I’m trying to figure out is when would be the best time I should test. Husband and I are in our early 30’s, I’m 3 days late, afraid of testing too soon. Should I wait a full week after the day I should have gotten my period or? I’m stressed out also. Mainly because of not wanting to test to soon, and work matters. Been tcc for 3 years. Midwife and drs. say everything is okay on both ends just not the right timing. Any ideas ladies?