Did you have relationship struggles with your SO after having a baby?

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If so, when did things get better? What did you do to help the relationship?

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I truly think everyone does. 
With us, we don’t have anyone to babysit if we want a night out or anything so I try to make it at home... it always seems like he doesn’t notice but tonight I overheard him talking to the baby saying “your mom is a supermom” and that alone rejuvenated me. Of course I would love a hair cut or a manicure... but that? That was exceptional.

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Oh yeah. Everyone seems to give you all this unwanted advice, but never tell you about what's to really come. My husband and I argued for a while after having the baby. I think by the 6 month things started getting better. I was falling into a routine, and just being super woman honestly. So it just got easier on me. I had a day where I broke down and lost it on him and I think that made him realize a lot. Ever since we started making time for ourselves again and have little date nights.

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Yes...and you are not alone.  There is a lot of documentation online that talks about the arrival of kids bringing marriage satisfaction to a halt.
Things get better for us as the kids get older, but it also takes work.
Our struggles seem to come down to division of chores/duties.  When I need help but I am not getting it...I get mad.  I know if I ask, my husband will usually help but even that makes me mad...because he would have to be blind not to see the disaster that is our house (or nose blind not to smell the dirty diapers).  He gets mad because I’m all tapped out from baby/kid snuggles and the last thing I want when we have alone time is to be touched by another person.
So you have to work through all that.  It takes work and communication...many communications really.  It really is an ongoing process.

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We’ve had work to do like everyone, but I’d say that our relationship has been pretty rock solid. Despite working out our new roles. We agree and discuss our parenting ideals. He’s being incredibly supportive with my changes and I hope he also feels supported.

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I voted yes. 
I was really good during my whole pregnancy. After I had my baby I got severe post partum depression. I hadn't dealt with any kind of depression for years. 
My husband was working mornings and going to school at night so I was home with the baby and my step kids. 
One night he came home from class and decided to have a drink with our female roommate, who was also a classmate of his and I lost my shit. 
I'm not a jealous person. In fact my husbands best friend is a woman. But, because of the hormones and depression I felt neglected and resented. He was spending less time with me than normal.
It was a hard first couple months after my baby was born. But, we figured it out and trudged through and we are great communicators. 
Communication is key. Also I feel statements.

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Yes!!!! I want to leave my SO every day since!!!!

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When we were both sleeping around 2 months

Did you have relationship struggles with your SO after having a baby?

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