I cannot take it anymore!

Me and my husband have been together almost 2 years now,we’ve been married since November 5th of this year.

I have a 3 year old from a previous relationship but she has never had anything to do with her biological father,so she only knows my husband as her daddy.

We have 10 month old twin boys together and I’m currently almost 10 weeks pregnant with our unexpected surprise.

I don’t feel like our relationship is going to last much longer if he doesn’t get his shit together because I’m so far beyond over it I could honestly scream,when we first brought our twins home from the NICU he was lazy...they were on an every 3 hour feeding schedule until they hit 7lbs,he never wanted to help feed and since I obviously can’t feed two babies at one time because one was on a heart monitor and they ended up tangled in the wires I asked him to please help to which he replied “I’ll get him in a minute” that minute never came so I just ended up feeding both. It went on for a few months until I finally snapped and told him how I felt. He started helping more...but he’s fell back off of that in the last few months and it’s getting worse and worse and I say stuff all the time only to be ignored.

Our twin b is teething and cried all night last night so I didn’t get any sleep so I woke him up at 6 this morning when baby a woke up to feed,I made the bottle for him and told him to go get the baby...to which he ignored and plopped down in the recliner and got under a blanket so I said can you go get him please?! He got an attitude and stormed in the bedroom. He came back with him and sat down I handed him the bottle and he snatched from me.

I went and laid back down and finally was able to get a few hours of sleep. I woke up at 10 and came in here to check on baby boy and he was in his swing just looking around and my husband was asleep on the couch,not that I care about that what pissed me off was he had not changed our sons diaper since he got him this morning so my sons clothes were soaked with pee and he had also pooped,I was changing baby b and tossed a diaper to my husband and said here and he yells “wtf what!” I said change him real quick,he slings the diaper across the room and just lays there..I yelled can you please change him damn it! He jumps up,snatches him out of the swing then when he realized he has pooped he wanted to start acting like he gave a shit.

He got pissed the other night when I asked him to give the boys a bath while I handled the 3 year old AND tried to make dinner to.

Anytime he is off he doesn’t spend it with us,he goes outside and is nowhere to be found for hours.

He is supposed to be off Friday and I asked him to keep the boys because I’m supposed to go pick up our new puppy I got the kids for Christmas and its an 8 hour drive all together and it’s not fair to the boys for them to have to be on the road that long in car seats when he is perfectly capable of keeping them.

But I’m to the point of not even trusting him because I’m like “is he gonna feed them? Is he gonna change their diapers when they need it? Is he gonna wake up if they start crying?”

Please tell me I’m not overreacting by feeling this way