Is it disrespectful or I'm over reacting ?!

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Hello ladies 
This afternoon my brother in law's son who's 8 years old said "shut-up" several times to my face while I was talking to his grandparents (my in laws) I was reeeaaaally upset and told him to respect people who are older than him with a serious tone , so what made me really mad is that my husband said to my face that he's just a child I don't have to over react!!! 
I told my husband that he should've said something to him instead of defending him while I was talking to him !! 
In my family this is waaay too impolite  
Did I over react?? 
Do you see what the 8year old said as a normal thing and I should've said nothing to him???

Update: 
We had a huge fight , because he thinks I'm over reacting!! And let me tell you this about this kid and his brothers they are really spoiled and they do what ever they want , one time they called me an animal (I yelled at them because they pinched my daughter when she was only three months and she started crying so much that she barely could breathe and turned into blue, and guess what?!  My husband said that I'm overreacting too. They do this kind of stuff to everyone and no one is disciplining them !!
I'm really feeling sad !!

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An 8 year old is old enough to know that's rude. And your husband is wrong.  I'd have told him the same thing you did.

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Definitely rude for a child to say that no matter how old, but at his age he should definitely know better. I would have gotten such a smack if I had behaved like that.

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You reacted appropriately, and your husband undermined you, so the kid will prob keep doing it.

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My issue isn't because you are older but the fact that he said to shut up. Hes old enough to know better and old enough to be told that's rude. I'd be talking to his parents. And I'd also explain to the child why it is ride to say that.

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Nope! That’s disrespectful! “Shut up” is not in my nieces or nephews vocabulary when they’re around me and the oldest one is 7. I’ve expressed to them many times that it’s rude and disrespectful to tell someone to shut up.

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Hell no. I would have been pissed. At 8 years old they know what is rude and what isn’t. My daughter did that to me once and I looked at her and said hey shut up! She says mommy that’s rude. I said how does it feel. She was about 7 at the time. I work very hard to make sure my babies are all polite. Your husband should have said something to him instead of defending his bad behavior. That is just plain rude and bad manners. Your brother in law should teach his son some manners.

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I don’t think you overreacted.

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Well i believe you are correct. Somewhere along the lines both your brother in law and his son’s actions went without notice. I would say if you can help it, don’t be around them. If your husband is bothered by everything you feel is rude regarding the two of them, don’t be a part of their company.  You cannot discipline your bro- in law nor his kid. So therefore, don’t place yourself in there company . If your husband wants to know why just tell him, “I don’t want to be put in any situation that would result in conflict between us or the family.” There is more to this if hubby and the in-laws are so unbothered.

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My nieces and nephew are teenagers now and never once no matter how old they are have never ever told me to shut up. They will get backhanded if they ever do. Not by me but by their mother ( my sister in law). They don’t even tell each other to shut up. Obviously your husband should have said something and the nephew should have been disciplined. I’d be pissed too

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That little shit would have heard what i had to say. Talk to me like I'm a piece of shit. I don't think so. That child is rude and has zero respect. If I ever did that to my aunt is get a slap in the mouth. Your husband is wrong and should have stepped in himself to talk to his nephew. He's 8 not 2.

Is it disrespectful or I'm over reacting ?!

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