Mother in law ended relationship (long post)

My boyfriend (now ex) and the father of my child had a major drug problem for 8 months or so due to PTSD from being abused and neglected by his family growing up. His mother does drug testing. I have had major issues establishing trust with my ex since then and am constantly suspicious of him using. I find out after a huge fight that caused the breakup that she had been testing him for months periodically and didnt ever feel the need to tell me anything despite me begging for her to test and tell me the results. I was violently Ill last night and couldn't really take care of my daughter and wanted him home so badly, but all I asked was to know he was clean before he came home. After telling both of them I needed the clean test from her, so I knew he didnt just fake it, she didnt feel the need to tell me because I was sick. The stress from me being so sick, and him not thinking he could come home caused him to use again. And now today after lengthy discussions his mother tells me she doesnt think I was ever happy in my relationship... like seriously? I was happier than I had ever been with him, until his family started interfering with our relationship. I still love him, and want our family together because he is an awesome dad to our baby girl and he does still make me very happy, but I dont know what to do! His parents are the cause of all of our problems, but he so desperately wants to still have his family despite all they have done to him, that he cant let go of them so he can work on his therapy and recovery from the PTSD. Do I let go and get away from all the drama and bs, or do I fight for my family... thoughts?