i lost my virginity and it HURT

so i just lost my virginity and it hurt A LOT. i don’t know if it was normal to hurt this much like my bf tried putting his penis in 4 times and each time it hurt a lot when he went in a certain amount deep. yes we used a condom and lube but i had to stop after the fourth time because it hurt soooo much. it almost felt as if he was hitting a wall and couldn’t go in further without the excruciating pain. (he’s only a 5in.) how can i make sex not hurt next time? is there something i can do to make it more pleasurable?