Is it normal?

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To not see your husband all day and only get a full hour out of the day of actual quality time? 
After work and then the gym it’s pretty much 9pm when he’s in bed next to me and he konks out by 10pm.. 
Is this okay to sustain a healthy marriage?
Newly weds

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Every one is different and has their own needs but for me and mine yes. I work in a place that i talk all day so when i get home make dinner for us he plays video games and i watch tv. Its as much for me as it is for him i need the few hours after work to just not talk and turn my brain off. Then when we get in bed we chat and do other things and cuddle for an hour or so. Then sleep. We text a bit saying hi throughout the day but we are happy.

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why dont you go to the gym with him? i used to go with my husband and it was nice, we would work out and then go cook.

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That happens with us too because of our work schedules. We try and make up for it on weekends and going on a trip to reconnect! It is tough!

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For me, personally, that would not be okay. But everyone is different. 🤷🏻‍♀️ I like to spend as much time as possible with my SO.

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You see him more than most military wives see their husbands. 🤷🏼‍♀️ At least you’re not going months without.

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Sounds like me no its not healthy.

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That’s where we are right now. I leave for work at 7:20 am and he’s still asleep cause he works a later shift. He gets home at 7pm, I make dinner and put our son to bed at 8. Then I work out and shower and by the time I’m crawling in bed it’s about 10 and I’m asleep around 11. He stays up until around 2. We do spend a lot of time on the weekends together.

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Do you have kids? If you had kids, definitely. My husband and I only get time for us after the kids are in bed, which is around 1-2hrs a day (we do have date nights once a week though). If you don’t fave kids, then 1 hour a day kind of sucks. Why not go to the gym together? Or set aside a special date night for a few hours once a week?

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Just wait until you have kids. Your priorities will change and you’ll have to make time.
Now I go to the gym in the AM before we both go to work, and he makes sure to be home around 5 pm after work and the gym to spend time with us so it isn’t coming home eating and going to bed. We also agreed on not having to go the gym every single night, and we designated every Wednesday as our “us time.” Even with kids.
Good luck! You guys will figure it out and get in the grove of things it’s all just an adjustment

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Its different for every couple. I was with my ex for 13 years and most of the time i worked days and he worked nights and we only seen each other in passing. We only split because he was super controlling and emotionally abusive. Not because of our schedules.

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