My boyfriend has a group of friends where everyone is married, except for one guy and us (we are just dating). We are a group of 7 and we do everything together, sometimes one of the couples won’t join us because they have a baby on the way and money is tough. Anyway, I personally have always had problems with Violet; the very first day I met her (and the rest of the group) she was yelling at her husband for helping someone cleanup their pool party mess. She kept threatening him saying he wasn’t going to sleep home and things like that. I felt bad and started helping the husband. She was also about to drive to the ER because she touched jalapeños and her hands were “on fire”. Only reason she didn’t is because she didn’t have enough gas. After that I told my boyfriend that she was absolutely crazy and there was no reason for that; he said “that’s how she is, that’s normal”. I disregarded the event and moved on. After a while she just seemed controlling of her husband, extremely dramatic, and a bit ridiculous to me. Fast forward I invite them to be part of one of my projects, a photo shoot. Me and my boyfriend were going and we decided to invite them but she immediately changed the plans. I was mad but I kept it to myself because we made an agreement. Apparently it was a “long drive for them”, which it was but it was a project, so they wanted to just invite more people and eat dinner and then hangout. Then go to the city a few days after and do the project there. I trusted them. No, we didn’t not hang out after dinner, and no, they forgot about going to the city so I went with my boyfriend and when we invited them they said no. I was furious! My professor told me that’s the hard way you learn not to depend on people for these things; which I agree. After that day I just never initiated anything because she was going to end up just changing it. Then she heard me talk about looking for a new job and offered to help me get hired at hers (she’s the manager of one Bank of America) but when I submitted my stuff she just kept ignoring me and kept saying she will ask the recruiters so, she didn’t help me but that wasn’t a surprise; I’m about to get a new job anyway. Then for thanksgiving they offered to be in their guest house at their apartment and, again NO surprise, they didn’t reserve it and someone else was using it. We were stuck at their 1 bedroom apartment and we did the secret Santa assignations. She and her husband are from Michigan but agreed to stay in California to do this. Well, just today they texted that they were going to Michigan instead because her husband’s grandpa is terminally ill. To me, that’s BS. And forgive me God but I hope that if it’s true that he does get better, but I mean... seriously? Your grandpa got ill a week before Christmas and you return the 26? Okay. *eyeroll* so not only we won’t be meeting that day, I asked for this day at work especially because they didn’t want to do it the 25 (a day where I don’t work), and now it’s just wasted. Me and my boyfriend live away from our families so we don’t know what we will do but they even cancelled the secret Santa exchange and now I’m here with a gift that I bought for Violet’s husband. They want to reschedule it to another time and I said “well, I don’t know if I’ll be available” because I really don’t. My new job is open 365 days and I’ll be management so, no, I won’t be free. I told my boyfriend about how they don’t keep their word and how irresponsible they are and he was defending them so I was like okay. Cool. I know they’re your friends but fuck! Can you not see how they are? I told him I was not going to make them a priority anymore and that I was just going to spend the day at my boss’ or my cousin’s, and that he could come if he wanted to, or I could even hang out with the other 3 of the group but never agreeing to anything important with them. I’m mad because Christmas is the only holiday I celebrate and that I love, and I would love to be with my parents and sisters but I can’t so it break my heart that my boyfriend, and who he considers his best friends don’t care at all. 😞