pee feeling when fingered?

Hello everyone, I wanted to know your personal experiences since I am not experienced at all.

Only recently I started being sexually active (only oral), I actually never orgarmed because I tell him to stop after a while, the reason being I start feeling like I have to pee and to poo😅

I read that if you feel like peeing you should let it go, that it's just a feeling, but I tried going to the bathroom several time and it was really pee every time. I'm obviously a bit concearned about the pooping part, I would be so embarassed to shit in bed😂

Oh and that happens when he is fingering me.

What is your opinion on this?