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We have a 6hr difference. He is not a party freak, but he does enjoy chilling with his friends and having a drink. I on the other hand, I stay in, Netflix and eat! What makes it work for us is he communicates. He sometimes sends a random text or calls checking up on me while he’s at it. Fortunately he drinks moderately. Let him know how you feel and ask him to meet you halfway. Of course no one said he is cheating on you, but a lot happens out there especially under the influence.Sending you hugs and good luck! ❤️
Boyfriend & partying
Hey ladies so I have been doing Long distance for about 6 months now and I think something is not working.
I am not a huge party person but my boyfriend is. I can't help but to be a annoyed everytime he goes crazy party mode (almost black out drunk and getting home really really late) and he doesn't text me at all ever while he parties.
I understand I can't be controlling but that's what I mean, I don't like that type of partying and I feel like it would be different if we were together, but when you are in a LDR partying feels different in my opinion.
What should I do? I won't tell him what he cant or can do but I do feel like, having talked about this multiple times, he doesnt take that in consideration and expects me to be normal the next day.
P.S. we have a 7 hour difference so when he gets in that party mode we stop talking from 11 am my time until I wake up again the next day
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I feel ya! my boyfriend and I have had similar issues. He's 5 hours away and while he doesn't necessarily party, he and his friends or family will go to bars for a while. He can be a pretty heavy drinker when he goes out, so he'll often leave at noon or 1 pm my time will pass out as soon as he gets home at 8 or 9 pm my time so I wouldn't get to talk to him until the next morning.After we talked about it a lot, he finally understood why I was upset, so now he texts me a couple of times throughout the night. It's not a lot, but it's something. What really helped is him making extra time for me the following night to make up for little talking the night before. It makes it so that he doesn't have to stop, but I feel better about it. Maybe something like that would work for you ? Also, if he doesn't respect how you feel about it and try to find a solution that works for you both, he might not be worth it.I hope this helps at least a little!
My man and I have 12hours difference and didn’t hear me complaining about it.Its not always be about you and if you’re not a party person then why don’t you find one like you? Just because you don’t like it doesn’t mean that he should stop partying for your sake.I understand that you need to communicate but it doesn’t have to be back and forth messages. And if you’re not happy with his party behavior then you should leave him because being in LDR is hard enough and if you’re not on the same page over a little thing then it won’t work.As long as he’s not cheating on you, he’s allowed to have fun with friends.
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