Just venting

Joanna • married 10.11.12 ttc for 2 years. Emma Rosalie 4.16.17 baby#2 est. 8.8.18

I don't know where this goes so I'm sorry if in wrong room.

I'm just so frustrated with my family saying I'm too young to have a baby that I need to wait and pay off my house.

I'm 25 years old, a manager,I'm married, and we have a house already. How am I too young for a baby but not all that??? It's always back and forth with my mom first she's like when are you popping one out i want a grand daughter...now it's you need to wait ugh we've been trying for 11 months now, I have to take clomid just to ovulate so I'm already stressed and depressed about this. Now I have her and my aunt on back talking crap. The week before last she told me that I won't even get pregnant this month so stop worrying and then last week she's like your nursery is going to still be elephants right? All excited.. but not today it's pay your house off before you have a baby.....

She had me at 21 so wth. I don't understand my family at all I'm at the point where it's eithwr I don't want to even try anymore or if I do become pregnant I'm not even going to tell anyone. Ugh

Sorry I'm just upset about that because now all I have is my dad and his wife that are excited for me.

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Ke

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Who even pays off their house quickly anyway?! Most people have 30 year mortgages. At this rate you'll be 60 when yoj start ttc :). You're an adult who can make her own decisions and your mom cannot tell you what to do.

Jo

Joanna • Aug 24, 2015
Lol I know right I want two kids and be a decent age when they move out lol.

Ke

Keelay • Aug 24, 2015
*you not yoj

Ki

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You can't focus on others. Take care of yourself and your relationship. 

Me

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I'm sure they'll be excited when you're pregnant. Maybe just don't tell them until you are so its not such a stressor in your life. Just glaze past the subject if it's brought up, in the end it's your life not there's. Do what's right for you. 

Jo

Joanna • Aug 24, 2015
thanks I think I'm just going to have to do that. it sucks though not being able to talk to them about what's going on.

He

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She's jealous & feeling old! My mom is like that too. She's like ugh I can't think about me being a "grandma" and I'm like screwwww u! Too bad!!! LOL 

Co

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Your an adult and gotta do what's best for you guys. It's going to be your life, not hers. Plus I agree with whoever said as soon as you are she's going to be happy as a clam!

Jo

Joanna • Aug 24, 2015
thanks. yeah I keep telling myself that. :)

Co

Courtney • Aug 24, 2015
Omg! That's just crazy to me. She went through having kids and I'm sure she would have loved you the same whether you were a girl or boy!!? You just gotta live ur life and not worry bout her!:))) goodluck

Jo

Joanna • Aug 24, 2015
thanks . I just know she's always saying something about my life like I'm not being an adult correctly. I hope she's excited she told me she doesn't want a grandson only a grand daughter

Sa

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Stop talking to the for a while. You don't need that kind of negativity in your life, don't care if it's family or not. No one has the right to treat you like that

To

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I know exactly how you feel... My mom is the same way...I'm 24 and she had me at 20.. She goes back and fourth about all the time...also my friends are always telling me not to have a baby even though all of them have a child... It's to the point I don't tell anyone I'm trying...you have to do what's best for you...and make yourself happy with whatever choice you make...as long as your happy everything... Will fall into place and either way everyone will be happy for you :D

Jo

Joanna • Aug 24, 2015
Yeah I'm not gonna tell her anything anymore I know wheb I'm pregnant too she'll annoy the crap out of me telling me o can't do this or that. ugh lol

To

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My mom constantly tells me I am not going to have a baby young. Its "tacky". She had 3 by 22! Just today she said "you better not be thinking about babies" because we were at the store and I saw a cute outfit

Jo

Joanna • Aug 24, 2015
wow that's crazy. mine is like why are you even buying stuff you're not preggo and ehst if you can't get pregnant then what. like wow thanks for being positve lok