I know that there are numerous posts on this. I logically know that it’s very normal and fairly common the be initially disappointed when learning baby’s gender. My question is how bad was the disappointment (best way I can think of the phrase it) and how long did it last? Did it magically disappear at birth or did it take a bit to bond with baby?

I’m really struggling here. I will note that I’ve been diagnosed with depression at 10 weeks but chose not to medicate because of risk to the baby. Found out baby is a boy at 16 weeks and it was my worst nightmare. I sobbed. I’m 22 weeks and still not over it. I don’t feel connected to the baby at all and I’m seriously bummed. This was a totally planned and wanted pregnancy after years of infertility.

I could use personal advice or experiences, but not the negativity. I feel bad enough. I don’t just feel like a bad mom, I feel like a worthless human being for all this. I know this is all filtered through the depression and I guess I just need some perspective.

Thanks in advance ladies!